I’m the kind of person that always has 50 web browsers open. I’m always juggling a few too many balls at once. And my balancing act is actually less of an act and more of a survival-style balancing struggle.
Even at this current moment, I am writing this blog, picking out candle fragrances on Yankee candle company, choosing Spring wardrobes for the kids, planning out our garden, buying seeds for Spring, fulfilling orders for my Etsy shop and working on our budget sheet.
I think most of us are trying to fit about 165 hours into a 24 hour day. (I also think we forget to count our sleeping time in that 24 hour period… which leaves only 16 hours into which we try to shove that 165 hours worth of “stuff” to do.)
If you’re like me, you want to do it all. You want to it all, right now, right when an opportunity arises and you want to succeed at everything.
I wanted to continue being a multi-tasking, farm-running, skincare making, homeschooling, DIY-ing, homemaking, full time working, friendship making, business growing, all homemade cooking, story telling, graphic designing, entertaining, blog writing BADASS.
And I could keep up that pace for about 2 months before I turned into a… half ass tasking, farm-barely running, skincare making, lazy homeschooling, full time working, lame-ass friendship making, business definitely not growing, all homemade cooking (at the expense of yelling at everyone in sight), complaining, miserable, shitty entertaining, depressed, exhausted, blog writing TRAINWRECK.
Why?? BECAUSE IT’S IMPOSSIBLE TO DO EVERYTHING.
Because at some point, you have to make a CHOICE about what you want to dedicate your time to.. and what you are actually ABLE to dedicate your time to.
As I realized that I had way too much on my plate, I started to slowly disappear from family and friends. It was always, “Oh my gosh, I have so much shit to do…” I stopped hanging out with my friends, I stopped calling my mom to talk and then I suddenly just downright couldn’t function. SYSTEM OVERLOAD.
(INSERT NERVOUS BREAKDOWN HERE)
Obviously the answer to this problem is that you have to choose. But HOW do you choose? How do you choose when you have so much going on, and you love it all, and you’re passionate at all of it, and you’re good at all of it and you just don’t know which one you should stick with RIGHT at this exact moment because WHAT IF YOU CHOOSE THE WRONG THING AND MISS OUT ON THE OPPORTUNITY OF A LIFETIME???
What if? What if? What if?
So, I’m starting to ask myself one question to decide what fits and what doesn’t…
Will this still be something that I love/am passionate about/get excited about/want/see myself having/doing in 10 years? Or will I be over it in 10 weeks or 10 months?
I know 10 years seems like a long time out… but if it’s a ONCE IN A LIFETIME opportunity, it should still be impacting your life even 10 years out. You should still be able to see the things that you are doing in your long-term plan (unless it’s something you’re doing out of necessity and you know is short term).
Life is way too short to do things that aren’t in your long-term plans.
Make the hard choices.
Go for your dreams.
Be bold, brave and fearless.
Never give up.